Not all a honeymoon for newly-weds

The Age (Australia) March 5, 2011 
A SURPRISING number of newlyweds resort to slapping, pushing or punching their partner, and women are often the perpetrators, a report shows. The study of 379 recently married Australian couples shows 22 per cent reported at least one act of low-level violence in the year leading up to and including their wedding. Most acts involved slapping and shoving rather than punching. ”People don’t see this as a problem – at least not sufficient a problem that would stop them getting married,” said Kim Halford, professor of clinical psychology at the University of Queensland and lead author. The study, ”Relationship aggression, violence and self-regulation in Australian newlywed couples”, shows female violence is at least as common as male violence, with the most usual patterns being female-only violence, followed by both partners being violent. Professor Halford said female violence was often trivialised, especially in movies and TV, where women were sometimes shown slapping a man to no detriment. But such behaviour was high-risk because it was usually women who ended up getting injured and feeling psychologically intimidated. ”If you don’t want to get hit, don’t hit,” he said. ”It’s a really bad idea for people to hit each other, regardless of gender.”