The Sunday Telegraph February 07, 2010
ALL that firm but gentle persuasion and all those time-outs may have been a waste of time – you really should have been smacking your children. At least, that’s a theme of NurtureShock, a US bestseller that will enrage the touchy-feely school of parenting.
It’s subtitled “Why everything we think about raising our children is wrong” and authors Po Bronson and Ashley Merryman also note over-praising can demotivate children. To work, praise must be occasional – and sincere. If you want to be a role model for your kids, the authors suggest arguing in front of them. Most controversially, they cite new research suggesting that smacking not only has a place in child-rearing, but that it can be essential – provided it is delivered in the correct way.
See also http://blog.newsweek.com/blogs/nurtureshock/archive/2009/12/30/never-been-spanked.aspx