Herald Sun January 11, 2010
Time could be up for time out. A Melbourne expert says naughty corners and time out in bedrooms are inappropriate because they shame and humiliate. A Melbourne expert says naughty corners and time out in bedrooms are inappropriate because they shame and humiliate. The same goes for smacking, which education and parenting consultant Kathy Walker says makes children feel resentful. Ms Walker also buckets bribes, which she says children work out pretty quickly and soon need to be “bigger and bigger”. Her new book, Parenting: A practical guide to raising preschool and primary-school children, covers a range of behaviours
…”Labels such as ‘bad’ or ‘naughty’ shame and humiliate children,” she said. “Even when this strategy is framed as a request for children to ‘sit and think about what they have done and then apologise’, it is inappropriate. A child’s bedroom should be a safe happy place of relaxation.” Instead Ms Walker, who thinks smacking is unnecessary and ineffective, advocates “chilling out” where a child sits quietly “away from the scene of the crime” to calm down. She said some parents spent too much time and energy forcing young children to say please, thank you and sorry, when their own behaviour was more important.