Teen sex lessons change the rules

NZ Herald Dec 12, 2009

A new state-funded experiment is turning traditional sex education on its head – abandoning lectures on the dangers of sexual activity and teaching young people how to get better sex through “ethical relationships”. The “sex & ethics” course, funded by $164,000 from the Ministry of Justice, is being piloted with people aged 16 to 25 at Victoria and Massey universities and two youth centres in Wellington. Auckland-based Rape Prevention Education director Kim McGregor said she hoped it could be modified for eventual use in schools. Parents Inc co-founder Ian Grant also welcomed the programme yesterday as “a step forward”, but still advised teenagers to delay having sex for as long as they could. The programme was developed by Australian criminologist Moira Carmody after young people told her in a survey that sex education focused too much on the risks of sex and did not prepare them for “the complexity of sexual intimacy”.

Mr Grant, whose “Attitude” teen health programme runs in 86 per cent of New Zealand high schools, said it was great that the new programme was teaching about communication rather than just “being careful”. “Teenagers today are being ripped off because nobody is teaching them that intimacy is what they’re looking for, and sex is only part of that,” he said. “We have to instil into our young people that committed intimacy is vital. This is a step better than the usual course, which just told you how to put a condom on a banana.”
The old way
Delay, but if you’re going to do it, practise safe sex.
The new way
Find out how to get good sex in an intimate relationship.